Putting Yourself Out There

Putting Myself Out There

She is remarkable. She is energetic, entertaining and filled with experience that helps a lot of people.

She’s worked as an employee, is a wife and a Mom.

She has more wisdom in one little finger than most people half her age…those people are obviously quite young.

When she talks, I hang on her words and enjoy what she has to share. She’s a delight.

Until…

She realizes she’s talking about herself. Then, the magic’s gone. The self-consciousness surfaces. She’s thinking too much.

Who is she? And sometimes a “he?”

It could be you. It could be that person sitting opposite from you at the coffee shop. Or that person across the table at a meeting.

It’s many of the people I work with.

And it comes down to a simple fear: Putting Yourself Out There.

Sure, you’re smart, educated and filled with valuable experience. But, do you really know that? Do you really value yourself?

It’s one of the scariest things to most of the people I work with.

What is it about the words “putting yourself out there” that causes such fear?

Let’s face it , when you put yourself ‘out there’, you’re opening yourself up to the rejection by others.

You’re opening yourself up to hearing your worst fears come true:

• You’re not good enough
• What you have to say is not valuable

But, what if that is a lie you’re telling yourself?

What if, instead of not being valuable, you’re much more valuable than you realize?

What if, you ARE better than enough?

Then what?

Wow, a whole other host of fear you might not have considered.

All this from just ‘putting yourself out there?’

Yes, because ultimately it’s about the greatest of fears, abandonment.

The script goes something like this:

“If I put myself out there and am not good enough, I may be rejected…and ultimately abandoned by those I care about.”

Or…

“If I put myself out there and am very successful, I might incur the wrath and jealously of those I care about…who may reject me…and ultimately abandon me.”

It’s certainly understandable as a fear…and also irrational.

Think about it. You have these fears about people you don’t even know. When you speak to an association of 30 people, you don’t know them.

When you talk to someone in a coffee shop, you don’t know them.

If they don’t want want you have to offer, they don’t want it. They’re not rejecting you.

You’re rejecting you.

Listen, you can be rejected without your consent.

I’ll say it again. You can’t be rejected without your consent.

If you accept and approve of yourself now (write that mantra down and repeat it daily), then it doesn’t matter what anyone else says.

And if you don’t accept and approve of yourself now, it doesn’t matter what anyone else says.

It comes down to you.

To put yourself ‘out there,’ you have to approve of yourself ‘in here.’

I certainly believe in you. Now it’s your turn.

To Your Millionaire!

David

PS – The Let Your Millionaire Out Success System is designed to gently enhance your self-esteem while introducing new success habits.