I was driving in the car with two of my kids when it happened.
Listening to the person on the phone trying to ‘figure-it-all.’ It was painful. She was worried about every word. Not sure what to say, yet wanting to say so much.
That’s when it happened.
“Look,” I said, “Just open an email, puke on the page, and send it to me!”
I don’t know who laughed louder, my client, or my kids in the car. I thought they were going to pee their pants they laughed so hard…and they didn’t even know what I was talking about.
My client, in a blinding flash of the obvious (BFOTO), also laughed deep down from her belly.
And then it happened again. Two days later. The same daughter who almost peed in the car, was sitting at the table trying to write an essay.
She’s testing for her 2nd degree black belt in TaeKwonDo and has to write several pages of what a black belt means to her.
I looked at her with the same grin from the other day and encouraged her to ‘puke on the page.’
By now, you might be wondering what the hell I’m talking about?
Have you ever been ‘stuck?’
You know, feeling like there’s something inside that has to come out – and no, not physically. But, something you want to say, express or otherwise get out.
It could be a product idea, book or emotions you want to share with an intimate. But, somehow it just seems to get stuck and you have a hard time getting it out.
Perhaps it’s worry about getting it perfect.
Maybe you’re scared of being bullied or criticized.
Or maybe you just can’t find the words.
Whatever it is, is stuck, and you’d feel a whole lot better releasing it.
Puke It Out
Years ago I listened to legendary copywriter Joe Sugarman talk about his craft. Of the 1,000 people in the room, Joe said that when it comes to 1st drafts, he’s probably the worst in the room.
He doesn’t care about the 1st draft. As he shared, he makes his money with all the subsequent drafts.
You see, the first draft for most people is the hardest to write – or say. It’s that desire to make it all perfect before saying, or writing, a word.
In relationship, this can minimize any hurt to the other person – but if kept inside too long, ends up hurting you too much. Get it out.
In business, holding back keeps you from becoming prolific. It keeps you from really putting yourself out there in a way that people understand, and want to support.
The 1st draft is exactly that, the 1st draft. Get it out, and then revise until it resonates with you.
If you hold it in too long, you may get sick and actually puke. Don’t do that, just open a document and start puking on the page.
And then later, you can clean up the mess you made.
Empowering Results (sometimes in strange ways)
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