Would you like to be happier? It’s not a trick question. Would you like to be happier and have more success in your life?
Would you like a success mindset? You know, where you feel successful. Where things happen and you feel good about them.
They used to annoy me, hearing them talk about all the good that could come out of something that, to me, seemed horrible.
Whether losing money, losing a relationship or losing a client – they seemed to find the positive in everything. It drove me crazy.
I mean, seriously, didn’t they ever get upset or depressed?
I soon realized I didn’t dislike their behavior. Instead, I wanted to be able to think like they did.
Having the right mindset for success is crucial. I found out early that if I wanted to succeed, I had to have beliefs that allowed me to.
I couldn’t go crying; “Oh why did this happen to me?” Something I may have been guilty of years ago when my carefully enacted plan – did not go as planned.
But how to make the shift?
That was the problem I had to deal with because shitty things did happen. I didn’t like certain things.
Well, that was the problem right there..saying bad things happen. I was already judging something to be good or bad, without knowing the full picture.
What do I mean?
Have you ever cried when a relationship has ended? Yes, me too.
After a little time, have you ever (never?) looked back and said “Thank God that relationship ended?”
That’s the mindset I’m talking about.
I’ve gotten upset over; failed relationships, business deals gone bad, losing customers and numerous other ‘hardships.’ Yet, over time, I can see the reasons why it was a good thing.
And that is a part of life, these ‘things’ happen…and will continue to happen.
They are neither good or bad. They just are.
I came across a quote; “Nothing has meaning except the meaning I give it.“
Wow, that woke me up. Seriously?
I thought about this, and couldn’t poke holes in it. It’s a solid quote if I really take life on life’s terms. People are born, they die. Relationships start, and most end. Customers come, and customers go.
There’s a natural cycle to things. Some body die earlier than others. Some customers stick around longer than others. Friends seem to be with you for a; reason, season or lifetime.
Stuff happens. That’s life. What meaning you (or I) assign to it (Good, bad, happy, tragic) is entirely up to me.
I decided that everything that happens in my life serves me and helps me grow. That started out as a mantra. But now, I believe it so deeply in my bones that when something ‘unexpected’ happens, I just lean back into it and trust.
Ultimately, something happens, usually outside my control. But, I can control how I interpret it. I can be neutral and zen-like, or get depressed/angry/sad – or I can believe it will serve me and help me grow.
What kind of mindset are you developing? What kind do you want to develop?
It’s up to you…it always is.
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